Forgive-Me-Nots

Forgiveness is a tall order.  Wading through life gives us all plenty of opportunity to forgive others and to need that same forgiveness ourselves. And yet with all this practice we routinely have trouble getting this forgiveness business right. More people come to me for help in forgiving someone who has injured them than any…

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Joined at the Hip

Sex. Christians don’t talk about sex.  We argue about it.  Loudly.  We make headlines.  And we convince just about everybody that we have nothing helpful to say about sex to anybody. What a shame! Sex is important stuff.  It’s powerful and life-shaping.  You would think that a religion that claims to make sense of all…

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Anger Mismanagement

Someone else’s (or our very own) contemptuous stare, cutting remarks, lethal coldness, sudden outburst, or cruel joke leaves everyone in a room appalled and makes everybody in the office or the family walk on egg shells. That’s anger.  It breaks relationships and dismantles people. Some list anger as a deadly sin.  Others insist that it’s…

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Salt and Light

Mark and Lottie (not their real names) had tied the knot more than 50 years ago.  Their lives were laced together by years of raising children, enduring financial challenges, enjoying material successes, doting on grandchildren, and simply passing days together in the common rounds of meals and chores and holidays and vacations. And then Lottie…

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Hurry Up and Be Patient

Nothing incites my impatience quite like being told to be patient.  In the list of helpful hints for the spiritually weary, the phrase “Be patient!” ranks somewhere near the bottom. Anxiously striving to be patient seems somehow to miss the point. And yet, patience is an important part of following Christ in ordinary, daily living. …

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